Tuesday, January 14, 2014

In Defense of #NGAQB

I wanted to take a minute and thank you all for your support with the No Girls Allowed Quilt Bee.  We as a group are very excited about where this adventure will take us.  That being said, there was some discussion among the group yesterday about some disturbing comments we received by a reader about the bee.  I don't feel there is a need to rehash the situation or name names because that will only perpetuate negative feelings.  I don't want this page to promote that.  The point of this bee is to celebrate men who quilt and hopefully inspire and help grow an interest in the hobby among men who are looking for a creative outlet.

No, we didn't intent to offend anyone by our group name.  A lot of discussion happened internally between all members about naming the group, "No Girls Allowed."  We knew going into this that we couldn't please everyone.  We thought it was the obvious choice so we went with it.  We are a group of men who quilt.  Our bee consists of male members only as does the facebook page we created, Men Who Quilt.  We also thought the name would be a way to add a little light-hearted humor into the group (think childhood tree forts with signs posted saying, "Ew, No Girls Allowed").

Yes, of course we respect the many women who quilt.  The quilting industry is dominated by female enthusiasts and business owners.  The No Girls Allowed Quilt Bee in no way means to offend or disregard their contribution.  I myself was taught to quilt by my grandmother and my family has several female members who enjoy quilting.  We certainly understand the possibility of negative undertones to putting the word "no" in front of anything, but that simply wasn't our intent.

Moving on to more positive remarks about the group, we also were made aware that the announcement about our group has already inspired a young man (the son of one of Joshua's readers) to make his first quilt.  Joshua posted today about that comment and I encourage you to take a look.  I warms all our hearts to see the very thing our group was set out to accomplish come to fruition.  In the days and months to come I hope our reach continues to grow.

I find it amazing that a group of us, most who never met in person, from all over the world can grow close this fast.  I've enjoyed every minute so far of our quilting related discussions and look forward to see where we go from here, hoping one day to get all of us together in person.  Until then, we will discuss, inspire, move out of our current sewing/quilting comfort zones and simply enjoy the time.

May you all get time today to spend a few minutes sewing and quilting with your friends and loved ones.

21 comments:

  1. How can someone be offended by that name...very interesting. I think what you guys are doing is great, and I look forward to seeing your work.

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  2. It's the internet. No matter what you had named the bee *someone* would have found a way to be offended by it. The fascinating part for me is that they felt the need to tell you that they were offended. What exactly did this person think would happen? Strange.

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  3. I'm not sure exactly what was said, but I can't imagine how anyone could be offended by the name of the group/bee. I think it's wonderful! I also see the humor and nostalgia in it. So glad it's inspiring more people (especially men) to give quilting a try :)

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  4. I think its a wonderful idea having your own quilt along - my husband and I both have different hobbies and our own space to create. I always tease him that his shop is "the he-man woman haters club" after seeing that on the Little Rascals - its meant in jest and we have a rule - I can't tell him what to do in or with his shop and he cannot say anything about my sewing room. So go on and celebrate and have fun.

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  5. Even though I can't join your Bee - I am sew excited for you all and I know plenty of guy quilters to send your way! Happy quilting!

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  6. I really hope that you guys don't feel the need to explain yourselves again. Let the negative comments be gone, seriously who has time for that! I love what you guys are up to and that you are inspiring young men to sew and quilt. Go for it. I love it and most of all have a great time, which I am pretty sure you will :o)

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  7. I truly cannot understand why someone could feel ofended by the name of your bee. World doesn't stop to surprise me...
    Don't worry about this. You won't ever be able to pleased everyone! Just have fun:)

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  8. Embrace the tongue & cheek humor. I love it! And I am so NOT offended :-)

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  9. You cant please everyone but as long as you please your selves. Now go quilt!

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  10. What a brilliant idea. I am certainly looking forward to seeing what you create in this group and will be following with interest. I wonder if, without the influence of females what colours and styles will develop in your group.
    I have to say when I saw your group name I immediately thought of Calvin and Hobbes - maybe he should be your unofficial mascot!! Please share your creations and experiences on your blog. Thanks!! From an interested female!

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  11. I think it's AWESOME!!! And I totally adore the tongue in check name! :) yall have fun, gentlemen!

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  12. Looking forward to seeing where your group goes and grows and what fantastic things you create!!!

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  13. I can't believe someone is offended! They need a chill pill.

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  14. I'm looking forward to following this group... I started quilting over the holidays this year, finishing my first quilt New Year's Day. I joined a quilting group on facebook, but am growing weary of reading most posts that begin with "Okay ladies..." I also want to be able to walk into a quilt shop and look for fabric without being asked "what did your wife send you in for?".
    Thanks!

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  15. As a woman who quilts, with a husband who quilts a little, I say Go guys go! I of course am not offended, and I'm hoping he will follow along. Unfortunately, he won't do facebook. I'm hoping, MAYBE, you would let one girl follow you on FB so I can let him read and follow you? Talk it over with the rest of the group and see what they say.

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  16. Wow, get a sense of humor already. Anyone with a big brother sure ought to be able to take it. Quilt On boys. (yeah I said it, Boys)

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  17. I'm offended that a Facebook account is required to participate.

    (Just kidding. Mostly.)

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  18. I think your group is a great idea. It's my understanding that lots of men knitted or crocheted when in the Navy and had long hours of time and not much to do. I'm sure they would have liked to have a group back then too. Ignore those who have prickly skin.

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  19. i think it's awesome and i can't believe you had to hear a single negative comment. however i must say i am jealous and definitely have my ears and eyes pressed to your fort door. (:

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  20. This is such a great mission. Who care about the negativity ... just keep on keeping on!

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